Mark Manson se ha convertido en una de mis referencias preferidas. Su aplastante sentido crítico, el análisis que hace de las motivaciones humanas, el saber reconocer los propios fallos… Quizás Manson no inventa nada, pero lo ordena muy bien. Es un libro fácil de leer, increíblemente agudo, aplicable en el día a día, y creo que muy necesario en una sociedad que parece celebrar el victimismo, la polarización y evitar enfrentarse a las cosas. Este libro te pone delante de un espejo, te hace ver tus propias mierdas, tus excusas y tus sesgos, y sobre todo, te ayuda a prescindir de aquellas cosas que no merecen tu ancho de banda mental.
Es un libro muy estoico sobre la aceptación de la realidad, sobre priorizar, sobre dejar de dar importancia a cosas que no la tienen y sobre cómo elegir por qué luchar:
We joke online about “first-world problems,” but we really have become victims of our own success. Stress-related health issues, anxiety disorders, and cases of depression have skyrocketed over the past thirty years, despite the fact that everyone has a flat-screen TV and can have their groceries delivered. Our crisis is no longer material; it’s existential, it’s spiritual. We have so much fucking stuff and so many opportunities that we don’t even know what to give a fuck about anymore.
Entre muchos temas, toca la importancia de aceptar las experiencias y las emociones negativas como parte del proceso de aprendizaje,…
Just like stubbing our toe teaches us to walk into fewer tables, the emotional pain of rejection or failure teaches us how to avoid making the same mistakes in the future.
And this is what’s so dangerous about a society that coddles itself more and more from the inevitable discomforts of life: we lose the benefits of experiencing healthy doses of pain, a loss that disconnects us from the reality of the world around us.
“Don’t hope for a life without problems,” the panda said. “There’s no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.”
…también habla del victimismo,…
What most people don’t correctly identify as entitlement are those people who perpetually feel as though they’re inferior and unworthy of the world. Because construing everything in life to make yourself out to be constantly victimized requires just as much selfishness as the opposite. It takes just as much energy and delusional self-aggrandizement to maintain the belief that one has insurmountable problems as that one has no problems at all.
Often, it’s this realization — that you and your problems are actually not privileged in their severity or pain — that is the first and most important step toward solving them.
…o de la diferencia entre culpa y responsabilidad. Porque aunque no tengamos la culpa de algo, los seres humanos somos responsables de cómo interpretamos lo que nos sucede.
Whether we consciously recognize it or not, we are always responsible for our experiences. It’s impossible not to be. Choosing to not consciously interpret events in our lives is still an interpretation of the events of our lives.
Fault/Responsibility: Fault is past tense. Responsibility is present tense. Fault results from choices that have already been made. Responsibility results from the choices you’re currently making, every second of every day. (…) You didn’t choose the robbery, but it’s still your responsibility to manage the emotional and psychological (and legal) fallout of the experience.
La primera mitad del libro casi podría ser una colección de ensayos sobre estoicismo. La segunda mitad está dedicada a explorar los cinco valores que Manson considera que, aunque parezcan contra intuitivos, son los valores más beneficiosos que se pueden adoptar: la responsabilidad, la duda, el fracaso, el rechazo, y la contemplación de la propia muerte.
Es un libro para subrayar, para releer, para tomar notas en los márgener y tenerlo en la mesilla de noche, para pensar en él casi cada día y sobre todo, para aprender a vivir mejor.
Mi nota: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 5/5 Bibliografía imprescindible para la vida
